• Dr. LaWanda Hill

Protect Your Peace and Honor Your Boundaries the Entire Holiday Season

It's that time of year that comes with great anticipation, anxiety, and stress; the time of year where we gather with family, friends, and extended family for the holidays. During these times, we often feel either ill-equipped to manage the stress of it all or feel like we just have to "get through it." I'm here to tell you that you can do it differently this year. You don't have to do either. You can protect your peace AND your boundaries as you gather with family for the holidays.

Easier said than done, right? I know. Especially for Black families. We have some very familiar challenges we face as a collective:

You know, dealing with obnoxious family members, and managing difficult conversations.

Then, there is the pull to re-enter familiar but unhealthy and unfruitful romantic and platonic relationships.

Oh, and how can I forget the anticipation of the questions you should not have to answer like:

How has being alone in the pandemic been?

You gained weight, huh?

Are you dating anyone?

How's the marriage?

When are you going to stop focusing on that board room and start focusing on extending your family?

For many of us, all year, we have been fiercely and intently working towards our goals of becoming higher versions of ourselves. We've been working to build our confidence, establish healthier boundaries that honor our humanity and reflect our values, and put the work in to reclaim our sense of agency. And yet still, gathering with family and familiar environments can erode your confidence and cause you to question your progress. The reality is that the environments and spaces we enter are powerful despite our greatest progress and capacity to cope. People, places, and things influence us as humans. But just because we're influenced doesn't mean we have to go backward.

That is exactly why I want to give you 4 questions to ask yourself to protect your peace and honor your boundaries this holiday season:

1. Where do you anticipate your stress coming from this holiday session?

2. In what ways do you feel equipped to manage this stress? That is, what coping tools and strategies have you mastered that you can put to good use?

3. What relationships do you need to set boundaries around to protect your peace and progress?

4. How do you want to show up differently this year?

These 4 questions will tell you a lot about where you are and if you need additional support. If you find yourself stuck in answering any of these questions or feel like the tools you have aren't sufficient to manage the level of stress coming your way, you may need additional support.

The path ahead to managing holiday stress for you may feel overwhelming and daunting. And if that is your truth, I am here to help. Are you nervous about managing stressful family dynamics, uncomfortable conversations, unhealthy relational dynamics, and triggering environments? Then, I invite you to take advantage of the extended therapy + coaching sessions I am offering for women who want to protect their peace and honor their boundaries this holiday season.

Text BLACKWOMENTHRIVE to 66866 or subscribe to our mailing list at www.drlawandahill.com to receive more details on how to claim this offer.

I am rooting for you, sis!

Dr. Hill